45 lessons life taught me – Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short, enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

 

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the future.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don’t worry, God never blinks.
16.. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it ‘ s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive!
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time the time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles .
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

Home Schooled – in many ways… Things my parents taught me

My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL  DONE.
 “If you’re going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning.”
My mother taught me RELIGION.
  “You better pray that will come out of the carpet.”
My father taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
  “If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”
My father taught me LOGIC.
  “Because I said so, that’s why.”
My mother taught me MORE LOGIC .
  “If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going to the store with me.”
My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
  “Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”
My father taught me IRONY.
  “Keep crying, and I’ll give you something to cry about.”
My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
  “Shut your mouth and eat your supper.”
My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
  “Just you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!”
10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
  “You’ll sit there until all that spinach is gone.”
11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
  “This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.”
12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
  “If I told you once, I’ve told you a million times, don’t exaggerate!”
13. My father taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
  “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.”
14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION
  “Stop acting like your father!”
 15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
“There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do.”
 16.My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION.
“Just wait until we get home.”
 17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING
“You are going to get it from your father when you get home!”
 
18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
“If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to get stuck that way.”
 
19. My mother taught me ESP.
“Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you are cold?”
 20. My father taught me HUMOR
“When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.”
 
21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
 “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”
 
22.My mother taught me GENETICS.
 “You’re just like your father.”
 
23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS
 “Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?”
 
24. My mother taught me WISDOM
  “When you get to be my age, you’ll understand”
 
25. My father taught me about JUSTICE .
“One day you’ll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!”

22 RULES FOR REACHING A GOOD OLD AGE

22 RULES FOR REACHING A GOOD OLD AGE

  1. It’s time to use the money you saved up.  Use it and enjoy it.  Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it.  Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard earned capital.  Enjoy the present moment. The sand in the clock may run out at any moment.

    2.  Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could.  You gave them an education, food, shelter and support.  The responsibility is now theirs to earn their way.

    3.  Keep a healthy life with moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep.  It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy.  Keep in touch with your doctor, get tested even when you’re feeling well.   Stay informed.

    4.  Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other.  The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner.  One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then.  Enjoy it together.

    5.  Don’t stress over the little things.   You’ve already overcome so much in your life.  You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present.   Don’t let the past drag you down or the future frighten you.

    6.   Regardless of age, always keep love alive.   Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor, your surroundings, your country.   We are never old as long as we have intelligence and affection.

    7.  Be proud, both inside and out.   Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber.  Do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist.   Keep your perfumes and creams well stocked.   When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong on the inside.

    8.  Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing sillier than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters.   You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it.   It’s part of who you are.

    9.  Read newspapers, watch the news.   Go online and read what people are saying.  Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks.  You’ll be surprised which old friends you’ll meet.   Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

    10.  Respect the younger generation and their opinions.   They may not have the same viewpoints as ours, but they are the future and will take the world in their direction.  Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them of yesterday’s wisdom that still applies today.

    11.  Never use the phrase:  “In my  time.”  Your time is now.   As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.   You have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

    12.  Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly.   Life is too short to waste your days in the latter mode.   Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better.   Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

    13.  Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your  children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that  is).  Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy.   They need theirs and you need  yours.   If you’ve lost your partner (our deepest  condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone.

    14.  Don’t abandon your hobbies.   If you don’t have any, make new ones.   You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance.   You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess dominoes, golf.   You can paint, volunteer at an NGO or collect certain items.   Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

    15.  Even if you don’t feel like it, try to accept invitations.   Baptisms, graduations, birthdays,  weddings, conferences.   Try to go.   Get out of  the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old).   But don’t get upset  when you’re not invited.   Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted.   The important thing is to leave the house from time to time.  Go to museums, go walk through a field.   Get out there.

    16.  Be a conversationalist.    Talk less and listen more.   Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested.  That’s a great way of reducing the desire to speak with you.  Listen first and answer questions, but don’t go off into long stories unless asked to.  Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to.  Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints.  Always find some good things to say as well.

    17.  Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older.  Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we’re all going through.  Try to minimize them in your mind.  They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you.  If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

    18.   If you’ve been offended by others, forgive them.   If you’ve offended someone – apologize.   Don’t drag  resentment around with you.   It will make you sad and bitter.  It doesn’t matter who was right.   Someone once said, “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  Don’t take that poison.   Forgive and move on with your life.

    19.  If you have a strong belief, savor it.   But don’t waste your time trying to convince others.  They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration.   Live your faith and set an example.   Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.

    20.  Laugh.  Laugh A LOT.  Laugh at everything.   Remember, you are one of the lucky ones.  You managed to have a life, a long one.   Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life.   But you did. So what’s not to laugh about?  Find the humor in your situation.

    21.  Take no notice of what others say about you and even less of what they might be thinking.   They’ll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you’ve achieved.   Let them talk and don’t worry.   They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you’ve lived so far.   There’s still much to be written, so get busy writing and don’t waste time thinking about what others might think.   Now is the time to be free, at peace and as happy as you can be!

RULES TO TEACH YOUR SON

  1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
  2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
  3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
  4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
  5. Request the late check-out.
  6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
  7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard. And be your own hero.
  8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
  9. Play with passion or not at all…
  10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
  11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
  12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
  13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
  14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
  15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
  16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
  17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
  18. Never turn down a breath mint.
  19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
  20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
  21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
  22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
  23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
  24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
  25. Manners maketh the man.
  26. Give credit. Take the blame.
  27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
  28. Write down your dreams. Then work hard everyday to make them come true.
  29. Always protect your siblings (and teammates).
  30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
  31. Call and visit your parents often. They miss you and love you more than anything.
  32. Always help someone in trouble.
  33. Remember can’t is a cop out. You are capable of anything you put your heart to.
  34. Be a simple man. But love passionately